But that’s not how he’s seeing it, obviously, so that’s not his “foremost.”What I’d like to know, and what you need to know to go forward: What at the front of his mind here?Is he worried this choice will make your son’s life harder? Or is he just a freestanding bigot and circumstances never lined up in a way that revealed this to you before?
After looking it over for about fifteen minutes, Beth returned the report to my desk and told me I was a male chauvinist. I was fond of Beth and trying to help her, so after I recovered, I asked her what made her think that.
First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.
With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.
Preferably with a chance of promotion 2) Made enough money to afford childcare so we can keep on working post-baby 3) Found someone to have baby with 4) Figured out if we actually want a baby 5) Had enough relationships, dates and sexual experiences to keep us going till we retire, i.e. Figured out how to do this in between climbing the career ladder and earning some money 7) Fulfilled all major dreams that can’t be done once we have kids and mortgages 8) Got a mortgage Not everyone’s list looks like this, but so many of my friends and contemporaries think along these lines: How can we do it all now, so that we can take a bit of time out later to have a family, or just to figure things out?
Will we ever manage to get to the end of our lists, and how will number eight ever happen when we’re still shopping in Primark?