The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.
Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.
So, that's where I come in--a single mom of two pre-teens. Jumping into a serious relationship is a lot easier for those who have never been married and/or who don't have kids. No one understands the impact of going through a divorce except for those who have gone through it. If you realize that it's not YOU, it will help YOUR self-esteem, and you won't be thinking he or she isn't interested in you. Because, any single parent can tell you that schedules and kids' activities get switched around every hour. If he/she vents about her ex or cries or tells you what a jerk he is, don't make the mistake of hating the ex, too. If you love him or her, you have to love the children, too. You really have to want to be a stepmom or dad or you shouldn't be with that person.
For me, the word triggers memories of blown money, awkward silences, over-analyzed text messages, and just straight-up awkwardness.And if someone is going through a divorce, and they had a really bad divorce day--meaning something in their case happened that hurt them in some way, they sometimes want to be left alone. When someone is juggling a job, kids, and a legal battle, they don't have the time to be on the phone with a new love for hours, and making plans is difficult. Just try to be supportive of feelings and be there for the person in any way you can. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of her blog, Divorced Girl Smiling, and the comedic divorce novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and . They want to just sit in a room and cry or hug their kids all night while watching TV. Again, don't take it personally if they seem distant. She also writes feature stories, along with the weekly dating and relationships column, Love Essentially" for Chicago Tribune Media Group local publications. We have undergone massive life shifts from single-hood to married life, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding; enduring radical changes to our bodies and minds.We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.