And it’s important to keep in mind that a scant profile will yield scant results, since an incomplete description or missing pictures will make you appear as though you’re not taking dating very seriously, aren’t truly interested in meeting someone special and that you don’t have time or energy to make dating, or a potential partner, a priority. And rather than coming off as well-cultured and interesting, you simply look overbearing and long-winded. An additional reason why this kind of dating may not be working for you is that you’re not taking the initiative to message people on the app or site.
Remember, no one wants to read paragraph after paragraph about the entire history of your life, so opting for a few key sentences is the key toward having a profile that will capture someone’s attention. And while you may think that you should be approached first, sending the initial message actually shows someone just how confident and assertive you are—both of which are appealing qualities.6. And speaking of digital conversations, another reason that you may not be having any luck on the dating apps and sites is that you’re not personalizing the messages you’re sending.
If he is attracted to you but is dating other people, he’ll get back to you eventually, without any additional prodding on your part. Think about it: If a guy is doing great, he might get ten emails – and can manage to respond to the three or four attractive women in his inbox.
If a woman is doing great, she might get 50 emails, or 150 emails, or 400 emails.
I read what I purchased from you faithfully and followed everything you said.
He may actually be a decent guy – but he’s a decent guy who is pretty indiscriminate about the women he contacts. 3) I just think it’s in poor form to tell anyone what to do. And yes, there’s a logical explanation for this double standard. No, you shouldn’t send a follow-up email to a guy if he hasn’t written back.
In a word, you have to make the apps and sites a priority if you want them to work in your favor and help you to meet that special person.
In many cases, the more active you are, the more likely you are to find someone.3. Another reason why you may not be having much luck in the digital dating department is that your dating profile is empty, sparse and/or unfinished. On the flip side, if you’re wondering why dating apps and sites aren't working for you, another reason may be that your profile is way too long.
I would say that less than 10% of the people I write to write back to me. I write to all kinds of men who are both younger and older, of all races,single and divorced, etc, etc.
and I’ve been very, very careful to use all of your tips, and I read your blog faithfully. I feel like I’m the ONE outlier who can’t make your tips work for me.